Frequently Asked Questions

1.What sort of people go speed dating?
2.How many dates will I get at a Singlez in the City event?
3.How are table assignments made? Who will I be sitting with?
4.Is Four minutes per date long enough?
5.What should I not talk about at a Singlez in the City event?
6.What should I wear at a Singlez in the City event?
7. How many people on average show up for events?
8.I'm a 40 year old male. Which events can I attend?
9.Why does the event start 20-30 minutes after you ask us to arrive?
10.Why do I need to book in advance?
11.What if I don't want to pay by credit card?
12.I am separated but not yet divorced. Can I participate?
13.Can I cancel?
14.Can I pay when I get to the event?
15.Can I show up late?
16.If I am not confirmed for an event, may I go to the event and see if someone does not show up?
17. If I sign up with a friend, can you guarantee that we'll both get into the event?
18.The registration form asks for personal information, such as address and phone number. In the event of a match after the event, is all of this information given to the other person? If not, what information IS given to the other person?
19.Can I bring a friend?
20.What happens at the event?
21.If I choose a person for more than one category (e.g. Friendship and A 2nd Date) and they choose me for only one category (e.g. Friendship), would it show up as a match?
22.When will I be charged?
23.Is it safe to give you my credit card over the internet?
24.If I did not get any matches from a prior event, can I go to the next event for free?
25.Can I get a refund?
26.What is a Black Velvet Event?
27.What constitutes as black?

What sort of people go speed dating?
All of our speed daters are professionals who want to meet more people. They're generally normal, attractive people who just aren't meeting people through their work or immediate circle of friends.

Is Four minutes per date long enough?
Please believe us; four minutes can seem like a very long time with someone you don't like. In our experience four minutes is about the right amount of time to decide whether you're prepared to invest a couple of hours in a follow-up date.

What should I not talk about at a Singlez in the City event?
In order to create a safe, comfortable and enjoyable evening for everyone, there are 3 subjects that you are not allowed to discuss at any time during a singlez in the city event.

1. You are not allowed to ask anyone for their contact information. This includes their phone number, last name, e-mail address, business card, or their address.
2. You are not allowed to ask anyone if they would like to have another date.
3. You are not allowed to ask sexually explicit questions, use lewd language, or say anything that might be interpreted as threatening or as sexual harassment. Please be polite and respectful!

If you meet someone who you would like to go out with, you may inform them that you'll be putting their name on your Singlez in the City Match Card, but please don't pressure them to put your name on their card. If they are interested they will put your name on their card. Remember, everyone at the event is interested in meeting people to date. If you're having a mini-date with someone who you're not interested in dating again, take the opportunity to learn something from them. Just because there's no love interest, you might be surprised by how interesting people can be if you ask the right questions!

What should I wear at a Singlez in the City event?
Wear what you feel comfortable or stylish in. Many people will be coming straight from work so suits are fine. But don't forget that in Speed Dating first impressions count

How many people on average show up for events?
Event sizes vary from 30 to 150 people. Different age groups and interest categories have different average event sizes. Our venue guide will normally indicate the expected size on an event.

I'm a 40 year old male. Which events can I attend?
We don't check your age but we do ask that people sign up for events in which the majority of people of the opposite sex will consider them age appropriate for dating. Most women are comfortable dating men who are 5 to 10 years older, and most 40 year old men are interested in dating women who are their age or up to 10 years younger.

For this reason, we invite people to sign up for events where there is likely to be mutual interest. For a 40 year old man, the following events might be appropriate:
· Ages 25-35 - depending on how youthful you are.
· Ages 30-40 and 35-45 would be ideal.
· Ages 40-50 - if you would like to meet someone older than yourself.

Why does the event start 20-30 minutes after you ask us to arrive?
We ask people to arrive early so we have time to check everyone in. If we start the event before everyone arrives, then people end up sitting alone. After you check in you can have a drink, some complementary appetizers, and mingle with some other people who have arrived at the event.

Why do I need to book in advance?
We need to ensure a balance of men and women. We also need to ensure that enough people will be attending each event.

What if I don't want to pay by credit card?
Send a cheque or postal order to us before 7 working days of the event you would like to attend. For the correct amount paid out to Singlez in the City Ltd to Burberry Court, 56a Redcliffe Square, London, SW10 9HQ. Please include your name, e-mail address, the event you're booking for and a contact phone number.

I am separated but not yet divorced. Can I participate?
Singlez in the City is all about events that help people meet other people. If you are looking to meet people, you are welcome to attend. Just be forewarned that not everyone will feel comfortable with your situation, so be aware of this.

Can I cancel?
We are not normally able to offer refunds but will move you to a different Singelz in the City event provided you contact us at least three working days before the event. If you give us less than three days notice we will still do our best to move you to another event. If we are able to move you to an alternative event, you will be changed an additional £5 handling fee.

Can I pay when I get to the event?
To participate in an event, advance registration and payment are required.

Can I show up late?
Once the event starts, we try to have someone for each participant to talk to, rather than sitting alone. As such, if you arrive late (more than 15 minutes after the starting time), we reserve the right to replace you with a "walk-in" if one is available. Otherwise we will do our best to fit you into the event when you arrive. However, if we do replace you we do not offer refunds for those who arrive late, because late arrivals detract from the event. Please leave early enough to arrive on time!

If I am not confirmed for an event, may I go to the event and see if someone does not show up?
Yes, but we can't promise you'll be able to participate - only if there's a no-show from your gender AND if adding you creates an equal number of men and women.

If I sign up with a friend, can you guarantee that we'll both get into the event?
If you sign up at the same time, it's likely that if one gets in then the other will as well, but we can't guarantee this since Confirmations are done on a first-come first-served basis. To ensure that you both can attend the same event we recommend you make a telephone booking.

The registration form asks for personal information, such as address and phone number. In the event of a match after the event, is all of this information given to the other person? If not, what information IS given to the other person?
When the participant enters match requests, they can specify what information they want given out to mutual matches: Name, email, and/or phone number.

Can I bring a friend?
You are very welcome to bring friends and many daters do. If you want to bring a friend with you who doesn't want to take part please phone us first as not all our venues have space for people who are not participating.

What happens at the event?
When you arrive you will be given a scorecard, a name badge and a pen, then invited to have a drink at the bar. Once everyone has arrived the compare will explain how speed dating works and answer any questions. Then the dating begins. Usually women will stay seated while men will rotate every four minutes when the bell rings. After each date participants mark on a score card whether they would like to see that person again.

At the end of the evening you hand in your top sheets of your score cards for us to collate. It is your responsibility to make sure that you have handed in your results and we advise you to keep your results in a safe place to refer back to later.

If I choose a person for more than one category (e.g. Friendship and A 2nd Date) and they choose me for only one category (e.g. Friendship), would it show up as a match?
As long as two people choose each other for the same category, it will result in a match. If one person chooses all three categories (A 2nd Date, Friendship and Business), and the other person only chooses Friendship, then the match will be for Friendship. However, if both people choose two or more categories, then the match will be on the highest level of the match (first: A 2nd Date, second: Friendship, third: Business).

For example, if one person enters A 2nd Date and Business, and the other enters A 2nd Date and Friendship, they will match for A 2nd Date. If there is no mutual category (e.g. - one chose Friendship and the other person chose A 2nd Date), then there will not be a match.

When will I be charged?
We charge your credit card when you book a speed dating event.

Is it safe to give you my credit card over the internet?
Yes. We use a Secure Shopping Cart System which uses a sophisticated system to encrypt your credit card information. This is MUCH safer than handing your credit card to a waiter at a restaurant.

If I did not get any matches from a prior event, can I go to the next event for free?
The Singlez in the City Guarantee states, "We guarantee you'll meet someone you want to see again, or your next event is on us".

After the event, if you enter someone's name on the match request form, then you have indicated that you do want to meet that person again. However, if there's nobody from the event who you'd like to see again then we'd like you to try again, on us!

Simply check the box next to the words "I did not meet anyone I want to see again" on the post-event match form. You will receive a coupon code after you submit the form. This code will allow you free entry into your next event. The only restrictions are that if that event has a higher price than our standard events then you will be asked to pay the difference.

Can I get a refund?
We do not offer refunds once the Confirmation emails are sent. If you don't show up at event, that means someone will be sitting alone for each round of dating. This detracts from the event so we encourage participants to attend the event or to let us know if they are not able to attend so we can try to find someone else to take their place.

What is a Black Velvet Event?
Black velvet is the speed dating club solely for people of colour seeking a friendship or romance with other ethic minorities.

What constitutes as black?
Anyone of colour from any descent.